Some couples do the same things for every date. Others depend on the old "so what do you want to do?" routine.
Instead, take charge and plan a mystery date. Take the time and care to prepare a special date. Your partner should not be responsible for anything other than showing up. You should pick the place, choose the activity, buy the tickets, and arrange for the dinner.
Settle on the time and dress ahead of time. Don't whisk your love off to Paris for a romantic weekend when he or she has a major presentation at work on Monday. You are only setting yourself up for hurt at your partner’s response if you don't take their schedule into consideration.
But, once you have agreed on the day, let yourself get creative. Pretend you are planning the world’s most spectacular experience specifically to delight the head and heart of the person you love.
You can be lavish or low key. It can be close by or far away.
Keep in mind that you are planning something your partner will enjoy, not indulging in your own fantasies. Focus on making the date, with all of its trimmings, a delight to your love.
Keep in mind that a date doesn't need to be expensive, just imaginative. A picnic can work as well as a week in Paris. A home cooked meal can be as romantic as a 5 star restaurant. This is about your heart, not your wallet.
Taking responsibility to do something that you know the other person will be pleased by can be very romantic.
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Go Someplace New
If a tourist were to come to your town, what are the things he or she would most likely do?
Too often we take our own environs for granted and fall into a routine for our dates. But you don't have to repeat the same activities for every evening out.
Too many people drop into their favorite neighborhood restaurant, have a Saturday night movie date, or just hang with their friends. You can spice up your relationship and show your partner that you care about them by doing something new.
When you put some effort into new and different activities, you demonstrate that your partner is worth putting yourself out for.
Consider checking out the weekend section of your daily newspaper or the events section of a weekly alternative paper for great ideas.
Here's a list of places you can visit together:
• Amusement Parks
• Water Parks
• Sculpture Gardens
• Botanical Gardens
• The Desert
• Redwood Forest
• New York at Christmas
• Carriage Rides
• Country Lanes
Keeping your love fresh by creating a mystery date isn't difficult or expensive, unless you make it so. Just remember you are doing this for your significant other and not yourself.
Ps.Always do everything from your heart and you will make up instead of break up in your relationship!