We Are Getting Back Together: Getting Back Together - Phase I

There are a lot of ideas out there on how to get back together with your ex, which can be useful but it all depends on what you want. If you just want them back for the sake of it then you can use reverse psychology techniques and similar strategies but be aware that these are unlikely to help you recreate a meaningful relationship that can stand the test of time.

On the other hand if you truly love your partner and know they love you too then you have to invest a little more time and emotion into the whole process. In this article we will look at some techniques that may be useful in the short term to get you back together and subsequently we shall explore how you should strengthen the relationship to rekindle lost love and passion.

The most prevalent advice you will find is that you should not initiate any form of contact with your ex for a minimum of three weeks with the reasoning that this is when loneliness spikes and they will be more open to you as suddenly they begin to realize what it is like to be without you.

Getting Back Together - Phase I

However, this tactic can also backfire as your partner may feel you are not interested and that is why you are not calling. This is where insight into the breakup become invaluable as it will help you determine whether your partner leaving was because they didn't want to be with you or whether it was their way of showing you that you aren't meeting their needs. Some people withdraw in the hopes that their partner will pursue them as they need to feel secure about how much they are loved.

You may have also heard that a good strategy is to make your ex jealous by going out with other people as this will instill in them the fear of losing you completely. This is also a tactic that can easily backfire and destroy all shreds of trust left between the two of you because it will appear to your partner that they cannot depend on you at all. Most people want to feel they can rely on their partners completely, especially when times are hard so if you go running off to date someone else in an attempt to make them jealous, your actions may be perceived as running away from a difficult situation.

There is a way around this and that is to go out with your friends, which will also help you calm down as it can be extremely difficult to analyze the situation if you can't get past the pain. You need to move on from the point of blame as it won't help the relationship if you are only focused on playing the blame game. You need to uncover the problem to be able to create a solution as you are probably both to blame or you wouldn't want them back. It does take two to tango after all.
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How To Make Your Ex Boyfriend Want You Back

All those tips on how to approach your ex are fine, but wouldn’t you rather know how to make your ex boyfriend want you back and come to you first? It’s not only easier, it also gives your relationship a better chance of survival when you let your guy come to his own conclusions instead making false promises or blackmailing him with guilt. Just a few simple tactics can get you started.
Rein in your emotions
If you want to permanently drive off your ex, go ahead and call him up and pour out your deepest feelings for half an hour. If you want to know how to make your ex boyfriend want you back, though, the first thing you need to learn is how to express your feelings in a more guy-friendly way. When you get a chance to talk to your ex, be the same confident, easy-going woman you were when you first met.

Improve yourself
Instead of sitting home wallowing in misery, get out and start doing all those things you always wanted to do, but never had time for. Buy a new camera and start improving your photography skills, brush up on your French, or sign up for a karate class. It doesn’t really matter what; as long as it’s something you want to do. One little tip, though: since you are, after all, trying to figure out how to make your ex boyfriend want to back, try to get involved in something you know he’d enjoy to. That way you have a ready excuse to meet up.
Take care of your looks
Sure, looks aren’t everything, but as far as men’s feelings of attraction are concerned, they do matter. That doesn’t mean you have to run out and get plastic surgery and the wardrobe of a Cosmo cover model, though. Instead, become the most beautiful version of you that you can. Take some time to learn which fashions flatter your figure, which hairstyle compliments your face, and pick up a few makeup tricks to highlight your best features.
Get your life in order
Despite the presumption that guys want to stay bachelors as long as possible, there are plenty of men out there who do want to get married and start a family. These guys are looking for stable, mature woman who’re ready for the responsibilities of raising a family. Maybe in your heart you’re ready to settle down, but your life doesn’t really reflect it—working late or partying every night, not setting aside money for the future, and not taking care of your health. If so, see what you can do to get your life shaped up.
Believe it or not, you probably do stand a pretty good chances of figuring out how to make your ex boyfriend want you back. After all, assuming you had a good relationship to begin with, at one point, you’re ex thought you were great just the way you were when he met you. Let him know you’re still that same amazing woman and he may just come around.
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Getting Beyond He Said-She Said

The term, "He said/she said" is often heard in the unfortunate case of rape. In this situation the term applies to the fact that when there is little factual evidence on which to base a decision the jury is left trying to determine who's story they believe and the case becomes one of her word against his. These cases perhaps illustrate the problems regarding he said/she said that couples are faced with in a relationship.
Beyond the fact that in a rape case one or both of the parties may not be telling the truth, exists the underlying problem that men and women think and process information differently. The differences between male and female gender include differences in thought process, sensitivity, memory, and communication. A successful relationship is one that recognizes the difference between men and women and is able to get beyond the he said/she said scenarios.
Men and women have a different thought process when it comes to solving problems. While both sexes are capable of solving problems equally well the thought process involved in coming to a resolution varies between them. For men a problem is an opportunity for them to demonstrate their problem solving skills in a quick and efficient manner. Men see having the problem solved as the ultimate goal and they believe that the best solution is the one that is quickest and most efficient.
Women on the other hand see a problem as an opportunity to work together and reach a resolution. Women relish the chance to communicate about the problem and the act of working together to solve the problem is more important than actually solving the problem. Women may feel closer to their partner, even if the problem still exists, if she feels that the resolution process drew them closer together. Understanding that women and men view the problem solving process differently will help a relationship to prosper.

Sensitivity is another area where ladies and gentlemen differ. Women have a heightened sense of sensitivity relative to men. This heightened sensitivity results in women being more prone to act on their emotions rather than on rational thought. A woman’s sensitivity allows her to understand her own feelings as well as those of others better so her reactions tend to take feelings into consideration above logic.
However, men do not have the same level of sensitivity and therefore are more likely to make their decisions based solely on logic and not take feelings and emotions into consideration. This disparity can result in problems during a relationship because the woman assumes that the man intentionally tried to hurt their feelings if they make a decision that has this effect while the man may grow frustrated if he believes the woman made an irrational decision. Realizing that this difference exists will help a couple to get beyond he said/she said.
Men and Women also differ in terms of memory. Men have a memory that is stronger in situations where they can recall the details of an event by making an association with something concrete such as a location or item. For example men are more apt to remember an event that took place in a location that they are able to visualize well.
Women on the other hand have a memory that is stronger when they are able to associate the emotions felt with that memory to other memories where they had similar emotions. This type of memory is especially problematic because when a women becomes angry with her partner, she is often able to recall other situations where he has angered her. Unless the difference in memory is recognized it can become a source of frustration in a relationship when the man and woman don't understand why their partner doesn’t remember something that is so vivid to them.
Men and Women also often have different communication styles which can complicate a relationship. Men tend to be more introspective about their problems and choose to deal with them internally and without discussing them with their partner. When they do decide to discuss a problem it's usually after much thought and careful consideration. Women on the other hand enjoy conversing about their problems with their partner and believe that doing so helps them to understand their problem better and come to a solution more easily. Women often use communication as a method for reaching a conclusion. They view the discussion as a way to figure out a solution. The he said/she said aspects of communications must be understood to avoid frustration and disappointment in a relationship.
Men and women have different styles when it comes to problem solving, sensitivity, memory and communication in a relationship. Careful observance and understanding of these differences is necessary for a relationship to flourish. Understanding these he said/she said principals and being willing to get beyond them will help to minimize difficulties in a relationship; in regards to gender differences.
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