Article 2 In The Series of Articles on From Breaking Up to Making Up

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Don't Be Hasty

A break up should never be over one dramatic experience. Put things in the context of your entire relationship. Remember, you can talk through most individual things. This doesn't mean that talking will save every relationship, but your relationship is a precious thing and shouldn't be thrown away over something stupid.

Think about whether you would rather not have this person in your life. What will losing him or her mean for you? What are the kinds of things you will miss out on when he or she is not around?

You have to ask yourself if you love the person. You need to know that the love doesn't end just because your relationship has. But, instead of having someone to share the love, you will just have a hole in your heart.

This doesn't mean that you shouldn't break up. It just means that you shouldn't be hasty about it.

Don't Move On Until You've Moved On

It is not fair to move on before you have informed the other person. Don't start dating other people before your own boyfriend or girlfriend has been dumped. It will hurt ever so much more if your ex feels you cheated on them.

If you are in an exclusive relationship, keep it exclusive. This ties in with being honest. If you find that you have started becoming attracted to other people and your affection for your significant other has diminish, finish things off with him or her before you take up with someone else. It's the right thing to do.

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The Week Following the Break Up

The week following the break up is the most painful period. It is also the time when people do stupid things. Whether you are planning to never see your ex again or you desperately want him or her back, there are some things you can do and things you shouldn't do during this critical period.

Give Yourself Some Space

When you've broken up with your ex, you need a “cooling off period.” Tempers have flared, people have hurt each other and sadness has ensued. So, give yourself some space during this time.

Your best bet is to avoid contact and communication for a week. Don't call, text or email your ex and don't let them contact you. Don't go out of your way to see them. When you do come into contact casually, disengage as soon as it is polite to do so.

If your ex contacts you, it is a good idea to ask them to give you a week to sort things out. Ask them not to contact you and you will do the same for them. Let them know that this doesn't mean that you want to cut them out of your life, you just need a cooling off period and give them a date for when you will be willing to talk again.

By giving yourself some space, you can analyze your next move. You can decide whether you want to try to get your ex back or whether you want to move on. Don't make these decisions casually when you are feeling hurt and vulnerable.

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Article 1 In A Series of Articles On From Breaking Up To Making Up

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Introduction

Slam! Kristin closed the door to the car and Scott wondered what just happened. “I can't believe you just did that!” she said.

“Did what?” Scott said honestly.

“You were totally making out with that blonde chick!”

“Um, I was dancing with her because you said your feet hurt.”

“You don't care about me,” Kristin replys back.

“Huh?” is Scott's response.

“Well if you're going to be that way, I want out. We're through!” Kristin says. As the car pulls up to her house, she almost runs to get inside before Scott's even gotten out.

In this case, Scott and Kristin have broken up and nobody is sure what has really happened.

Are they doomed to live separate lives now or is there a chance that they can patch things up? This report looks at both scenarios. If Scott and Kristin are going to get back together, they need a cooling off period. Then, they need to work on rebuilding their relationship and fixing what is wrong.

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If, on the other hand they are destined to split, there are things they need to do to bring closure so they can move on.

This report is going to look at the anatomy of the end of the relationship – from the break up to the make up.

The Break Up

We'll first start by examining how people break up. Most people handle the break up all wrong. This can make the event far more painful than it has to be. Additionally, it can stand in the way of actually reconciling. So, if you're reading this before the break up, bear these things in mind.

If there is going to be a break up, there are some things you should do to make it fair.

Be Honest

If you are going to break up with someone, you owe it to your shared history to be honest about it. This doesn't mean that you have to dredge up everything that ever went wrong, but you should have a heart to heart about heading in opposite directions. Some of the time, one person realizes that things aren't as they should be before the other one does. By being honest, you can do your best to minimize the hurt your ex will experience.

If the relationship has gotten too serious and you are not ready for that level of commitment, let your ex know that it's not them.

But, if there is something specific that has gone on with your relationship, let the other person know. It might be something that will doom all of their relationships if they don't fix it. For instance, if your ex girlfriend nags you all of the time, you can tell her that her harping has irrevocably harmed your relationship. Or, if he refuses to communicate with you, let him know it's been a problem. These things are helpful not hurtful.

But, don't go into every little thing and don't drag out the conversation. Being honest doesn't mean talking things to death.

Article 2 of this series of articles on "From Breaking Up To Making Up" will be published tomorrow.

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Article 6 and Conclusion of The Series of Articles on Finding Someone Special To Spend Your Life With

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What to Look for in a Matchmaking Service

When choosing a matchmaking service, you should ask a lot of questions. For instance, find out how long the service has been in business because new companies have fewer members and fewer compatible matches. They also go out of business soon.

Find out what programs they have and the levels and fees for various services. Ask them about how many members they have and get the demographic details such as age, profession and religion. The best bet is to join a service with 1000 to 2000 members with equal numbers of males and females at the various age levels.

Be sure to find out what the relationship goals of the membership are. Is this a matchmaking service for those wanting to get married or just for people looking for a casual date?

Find out who does the actual matching and how long she has been working for the service. Keep in mind that the industry suffers from high turnover rates. If your matchmaker has moved on, ask for another interview with the new matchmaker so that they have a personal interest in you.

Find out what variables you will be matched on. Don't fall for services that “score” you. Also avoid smarmy services that remind you of used car salesmen.

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You should know how you will be informed about your matches. The best services phone you to describe the match and obtain your consent before exchanging your data with another client.

Ask what steps are taken to protect your confidentiality. If you don't get an answer that satisfies you, run!

Ask why the interviewer thinks the program fits you. One way to find out is to ask who the service turns down. Remember, if they take everyone, they'll suit no one.

Look for feedback and testimonials from other members, but keep in mind that the service will only produce the most positive ones.

Ask about what happens when members are dissatisfied. Is there a full or partial refund if the service does not turn out to be useful.

Finally, it's okay to ask the matchmaker what makes her service better than the competitor. Make sure her answer makes sense to you before signing on the dotted line.

The staff should never be allowed to date the members.

Additionally, the service should be located in an office that you go to. Beware of services that come to your home or meet you in a hotel lobby.

Conclusion

You may think it is hard to meet someone special. But your first order of business is to determine where you are in your life.

If you are a casual dater, someone special may be someone to be with you on New Year's Eve or Valentine's Day. You may want to date someone who doesn't have any long term relationship goals, they're just in it for right now.

If you are a more serious dater, you're looking for someone with a little more staying power. This doesn't have to be the man or woman you want to spend your life with, but maybe if the timing is right, you could possibly settle down in the future with him or her. You want someone who shares a good deal of your life interests as you will be spending a lot of time with them.

Finally, if you are laser targeted on finding a husband or wife, you need to take serious steps so that you are dating only people who are also looking for a long term relationship. You don't want to burn out on dating before you find Mr. or Ms. Right who you will raise children with.

It can be hard to find someone special. Both men and women can become frustrated with the lack of available members of the opposite sex! But, using the insight found in these six articles, you should be able to determine just how to find your dream match – where ever you are in your dating life.
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Article 5: Finding Someone Special To Spend Your Live With

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Online Dating Services

Online dating services are an evolution on personal ads. Lydda will first fill out a profile which states her demographics and preferences. The service's computer program then selects certain people who match her in ways she indicates such as age, race, religion, and relationship goal.

The service also has a library function where she can browse other people's profiles. Additionally, she can opt to have her profile go “live” so that men can contact her.

Online dating services vary in price. Most will let users join for no upfront fee with the restriction that they can only browse the listings. Once they actually want to contact or respond to other people using the service, they have to pay a fee. These fees can vary between $20 a month to $100+.

Some of the services offer very limited space for personal information. As a result, users get largely demographic data and not the personality of the person. Other services are more generous in what they allow. Most of the services offer a photo or video profile. Lydda may want to consider getting professional photographs to place on the service because this will make her more attractive to men who are searching the database or have been matched to her. Many people skip the profiles and just look at the pictures or only look at the profiles of the people they've found to be beautiful.

Lydda should keep in mind that each man compiles his own profile. They may be slanted – or just lies. She should take the same precautions with online dating that she does with personal ads.

Personal Matchmaking

Matchmaking has been a profession (or a calling, depending on how you look at it) in many cultures and across time. The current incarnation is the Personal Matchmaker.

The credentials, training, skill, professionalism, and ethics of matchmakers vary widely. Some matchmakers are part of a nationwide franchise and others are a more personalized boutique service.

Sometimes the matchmaker meets the clients, and sometimes she (it's almost always a she) does not.

In most cases the personal matchmaker will interview a potential client extensively asking questions about relationship goals and then make matches.

The service would screen and research matches for Lydda and then notify her via email or phone when a match is ready. If both Lydda and the man accept the match, names and numbers are exchanged. Basically, the service does all of the hard work and Lydda can have the fun.

The prices for personal matchmaking vary widely. You can expect to pay at least $1000 for a good service, but prices can go up to $5000 or more. The price for most companies is for a set period of time generally one or two years. Other services will give a certain number of matches for a set fee.

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A credible matchmaking service is good for a busy person like Lydda. She'll appreciate the convenience and time saved by having a professional setting up the matches.

Match making is the easiest, most time efficient way for Lydda to meet men. Keep in mind that everyone burns out when they do too much of something for too long. If Lydda gets on the dating treadmill, she may give up before she's met Mr. Right. But with a Matchmaking service, she cuts out most of the “work” of dating.

But these services are not perfect. The level of professionalism varies widely. Some of the problems include having you interview with someone other than the matchmaker or sending your data out of town to a computer program that supposedly matches you.

The forms you fill out are not standard psychological tests – they're just quizzes and may not even be taken into consideration. A good match maker can use these as tools, but they are not themselves the scientific basis for a relationship.
Article 6 will continue the focus on Matchmaking Services.
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Last year I was doing some “lateral thinking” trying to come up with a way
to assist the “dating market”…that wasnt already just over run with
competition.
And…I had an idea…that stemmed from thinking about the “people”
involved. Which most of my good ideas come from thinking like
or hanging out with the people involved.
So I was trying to pretend, after over a decade of marriage, that I was my
target market…and the question I asked was…
What brought me to a dating site?
Like eHarmony…or True…or Chemistry.com?
…And I had the thought that many probably come after a BREAK UP or
DIVORCE…or in the middle of a separation.
So…
I began to look for and hang out where these newly separated guys and
gals were hanging out.
…and what I discovered was that MANY wanted more than anything else
was a way to MAKE UP before the relationship completely broke up
forever. Secondarily, they wanted a way to deal with the emotions they
were having going through this very tough time.
Interesting huh?
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We Are Getting Back Together:Finding Someone Special To Share Your Life With

Introduction

There was a time when everyone lived in a small villages and you were likely to know your future mate from birth. That limited people's choices, but it also made dating and getting married easy. In the 21st Century, you can scour the entire world to find your soul mate.

But the wide amount of choice isn't necessarily a good thing. Sometimes the overwhelming choice limits you from making any choice.

So, the trick is to determine the best ways to find the one person who is right for you in the sea of potential mates.

What Kind of Relationship Are You Looking For?

There are many ways to meet other singles. Your method will best be determined based on your relationship goal and how soon you want to reach it.

For instance, are you looking for some short term fun with no strings attached or are you ready for a long term commitment?

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Consider these three scenarios:

Jerome is an 18 year old who has just graduated from high school. He's working at a pizza shop to make some money before he goes away to college in the fall. There's no pressure on him to form a long term relationship – in fact, having a girlfriend back home could stunt his social prospects in college. So, right now he can go out on fun dates in a casual manner.

Cynthia is 42 and recently divorced. She started dating her ex in high school and has very few “dating” skills. While she craves being in a relationship again, she really needs time as a single person again so she can date around and figure out just what kind of person matches her needs at this point in her life.

Lydda is a 28 year old third grade teacher.. She's had her fun and now is emotionally and financially ready to settle down and have a family. She is going to need a targeted method to find a spouse who can help her raise the children she hopes to have.

We're going to talk about three “efficiency levels” of dating which describe the type of person who use each method, the method itself, and who shouldn't use the method.

Method 1 is Casual Dating.

Casual Dating is for people who are not ready to marry soon. They may just be looking for friends or having casual fun. Young people, college students, people who have recently relocated, and those who are recently divorced or widowed fall into this category.

The best places to meet people in the Casual Dating sectors include community and church activities, events, classes, clubs, gyms, volunteering, and anywhere you hang out.

Casual Dating is not for people who are psychologically mature enough to marry and want a long term relationship or marriage in the next few years.

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We Are Getting Back Together Again:Article 3 The Nuts And Bolts Of Good Communication

Today's article continues the series of articles on "The Nuts and Bolts of Good Communication and picks up wtih:

Facilitative Agreement

With Facilitative Agreement, you state the parts of the argument that your partner has made that you can agree with before stating your own opinion.

Here's an example:

Jennifer and Tom are a couple who have a 3 year old named Jeffrey. Their budget is tight, but they are setting aside a small sum in a savings account for Jeffery's college education.

One day Jennifer comes to Tom and says that she wants to put Jeffrey in pre school three days a week.

Tom might say “I agree with you that giving Jeffrey a good start on his education is important. I also know that you are working very hard to be a good mother and take care of the house.”

Jennifer has expected a fight. Now, though, Tom has addressed her core concerns. At this point, he can make his argument.

“The only place in our budget for pre school would come out of Jeffery's college fund. Don't you think he will get more value out of college later than he would from pre school today?”

When you use facilitative reasoning, you tell your partner that you think he or she is a good person. You make a good faith effort to understand their point of view. It also shows them that you are open to a friendly, respectful discussion of the issue at hand.

Where they are expecting combat, they get conversation.

Supportive Statements

Supportive Statements are direct conveyances of empathy. Some examples:

• “I feel so sad for you.”
• “I'm so sorry about your loss”
• “I'm happy this has happened for you.”

Supportive statements are best used at the end of a conversation that has included reflective listening and facilitative agreements. Otherwise, your partner may feel that you are blowing him or her off. This also allows your partner to blow off steam and get the emotions out of his or her system.

Positive Reinforcement

Think about how you get a small child to behave in accordance with your wishes. You may tell your son that if he is quiet during the grocery shopping he can ride the mechanical horse afterwards. You do the same with pets. You teach a dog to fetch by offering a treat when he brings the ball back.

Positive reinforcement works in adult relationships as well. They can be verbal or non-verbal. Verbal examples include words like “Great!” “Way to Go” and even “I love you.” Non-verbal reinforcement can include smiles, touching, hugs and kisses.

When you are pleased with the way your partner has acted, be sure to let him or her know with positive reinforcement. As he or she does more of the desired act, the amount of reinforcement should be increased as well.

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So, when your husband cleans out the garage, he will expect that you will be appreciative. When your wife goes out of her way to look nice, she'll expect you to notice and comment on it.

Your relationship should be full of examples of positive reinforcement. Whenever your partner does something that you would like more of, find a way to reinforce it.

If you have asked your partner to make a change in his behavior, notice every time he succeeds. He has a choice. Make it easy and desirable for him to choose the action you desire.

Let's say you want your husband to take out the trash after dinner every day. One day he does it without you saying anything. Afterwards, you should say “Thanks for taking out the trash. I really appreciate it.” Do Not Say: “Well, you finally remembered to take out the trash on your own for once.” That doesn't reinforce the behavior you desire.

Tomorrows article will continue the series of articles on "The Nuts and Bolts of Good Communication".

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We Are Getting Back Together:2nd Article On Sparks Of Love Series

This is the 2nd article in the series of articles on the "Sparks of Love".
As you will remember yesterday's article left off with the discussion on loyalty to your partner. The most important part is likely being monogamous in the relationship.

Monogamy

Monogamy boils down to sexual loyalty. If you are in an exclusive relationship, you have sex only with that person. And, you don't quibble about what sex consists of. Your affections are totally reserved for the person you love. Being sexually exclusive helps your relationship grow emotionally.

Maturity

Two seventh grade students who are “going steady” don't have much maturity – and their “relationships” tend to fall apart in a matter of weeks (or even days) as any middle school teacher will tell you.

But, in an adult relationship, both parties need to have a significant level of maturity to make the thing last. When you have proper emotional development, you are able to see the “big picture” and not sweat the small stuff. You won't just consider your own point of view, you will be able to see the world through your partner's eyes.

When you are mature, you treat the other person well. It's the right thing to do and you know your relationship will benefit as a result. You know that you won't get everything you want and you are prepared to compromise.

When you are mature, you are ready to give as well as receive whereas immature people focus only on their own needs.

Psychological Health

The healthier you are personally, the better the chances are that a relationship can work. This means you are emotionally stable, responsible and independent. You should also have reasonably developed social skills.

A person must be in touch with reality in order to have reasonable expectations for the relationship. You should be free from addictions and not engage in self defeating behaviors.

When people in a relationship suffer from poor psychological health, the relationship will falter. Most relationships cannot survive when one person is significantly healthier than the other.

If you feel you are in poor psychological or emotional health, it may be best to seek personal therapy before engaging in a meaningful relationship in order to have the best chance at success in romance.

Morality

One of the most important aspects to your sense of self is your morality. What things do you consider must be done in order to live a moral life? What things must be avoided. Are social justice, equality, and eco-awareness central to your morality or are your values centered around family values and traditional economics? These things can make a big difference in your relationship.

That is not to say that you have to agree on everything in the political sphere. But, it is necessary that you agree on what is right and what is wrong.

Many times a person's morality is tied in with his or her religious beliefs. So, if you are a highly religious person and you are dating someone who disdains religion, you probably don't have enough shared morality to move forward.

There are some lines that must not be crossed. What are they for you? If your partner does not share these boundaries, you will have endless fights.

Having a shared moral code is one of the most important aspects to your successful relationship.

Tomorrows article will pick up on having shared goals in the relationship.

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Recreate Your First Date To Keep Your Love Fresh

Recreate Your First Date

Remember your first date?  First dates are so laden with emotion.  You may have planned the perfect first date and then not had much fun on it because you were a bundle of nerves.

Jeremy and Susan had met through the personals and decided to go to a movie on their first date – after all, that's about as public a place as you can get, right?  It seemed like a safe bet for a date with a stranger.

Well, it was a Tuesday night and the movie had been out for over a month.  The theater was entirely empty.  Susan had trouble enjoying the movie because she was freaked out about being alone in a dark theater with someone she had never met.

But, Jeremy suggested coffee and desert afterwards and she agreed (as long as there were people around).

They found they enjoyed each other's company and a second date lead to a third.

They had been to many movies since that first date, but never once had the theater been empty again.

Recreate Your First Date To Keep Your Love Fresh

So, for the couple's eighth wedding anniversary, Susan arranged to rent an entire theater movie screen for a mid week showing and have a movie date all to themselves.  Because it was a smaller screen and it was mid week, it wasn't as expensive as you’d might imagine.

This time, it was a lot of fun to be alone in the dark together.

One fun thing to do is to recreate your first date.  It has all of the excitement of the first time around but without the nerves.

Sharing your history with each other can give you a perspective that allows you to weather temporary glitches better because of the sense of shared past.  Nothing is more romantic than the sense that you’ve come through troubled times together.  Going on your first date again is the metaphorical equivalent of being cozied up in front of a roaring fire together with a cold wind blowing outside.

If you can't recreate the date for some reason (the restaurant went out of business, you live in a different city, etc.) Consider reminiscing in a note or conversation to help remind each other of some of the landmarks in your relationship.  These can include your first date, your first kiss, or the first time you knew it was serious.  These are the things that make you feel closer to one another
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3 Tips for getting your Ex Back Fast and 2 Things To Avoid

Break ups can be very difficult to deal with and many are quite stressful and traumatic.  Although the relationship has been struggling perhaps you weren’t really ready for breaking up and are now asking yourself the question ‘how do I get my ex back?’  Even if your breakup is a very traumatic one there is usually still some hope of reconciliation.  If you know the right steps to take and how to act toward your ex then you just might be able to repair your relationship.  Here are some tips and tricks that can help you win your ex back and also some things that you might want to avoid.

Tips
Tip #1 – be yourself.  Acting like someone else just to try and win your ex back will not help matters in the long term.  Even if acting differently helps them to like you in the short term, it is hard to keep up the facade long term and sooner or later you will fall back into acting like yourself, so if you really want to be successful at getting your ex back then start acting like yourself.
Tip #2 – never use the method of trying to make him jealous to get him back.  Flirting with his friends in front of him will only hurt his feelings and could actually make the situation worse.  Some people use flirting to make their ex jealous while others use it to get revenge, either way it could backfire and you could lose him forever.
Tip #3 – be honest with your ex and don’t be afraid to tell him how you feel.  Don’t go overboard and act like life is not worth living without him, you don’t want to appear desperate.  Talk to him and let him know that you still love him and that you still want this relationship to work.  You never know, there is a chance that he might be feeling the same way and also want to give it another go.
Things to Avoid
Things to Avoid #1 – if you both agree to give the relationship another go then you want to make things clear right from the start that you are serious about the relationship.  Avoid getting into a habit of ‘on and off dating’ as this can be heart breaking and is no good for anyone.  Have a really good think about how you feel and if making this relationship work is really what you want and talk to him so you can find out if he really wants it to work too.
Things to Avoid #2 – don’t forget about the issues that led to your relationship breaking up in the first place.    If you want to save this relationship and turn it around into a happy relationship then you need to work on any issues that you had.  If you ignore the reasons for your breakup then you can’t move past them, it is important that you face any problems you had to move on and have a healthy relationship.
It is possible to win your ex back but you need to be sensible in your approach.  Use these tips and things to avoid and build a stronger, healthier relationship that will be made to last.